I am a strong believer in not pushing the child to share. I would hate it myself if somebody would make me to give e.g. my phone to somebody just because they wanted to play with it/check it out. I believe his toys are as precious as mine. So, if he doesn't want to share, he doesn't have to. But if he wants to play with someone's else's toy and that someone doesn't want to lend it to him, he should offer him something in exchange. If the other child doesn't want to exchange, Teodor has to learn to deal with it. The thing is that other parents in our local playground (and probably also in the one in the city centre) push their children to share, so T. is not confronted with being said no.
Yesterday I learnt he understands the playground rules: if you leave your things unattended, anybody can play with them. So when the other toddler came, he went to gather his stuff. He also understood that if he wanted the plastic shapes for making sand pie, he had to offer his excavator to the boy. Aaah, my baby boy loved making sand pie yesterday and even more he enjoyed destroying them :) (he cannot really make the sand shape, he was turning the shape too high above the ground, but he got the process how to make it)
The only worry is that probably other parents must thing I am over-protective because if I child took Teodor's excavator in the city centre park, I just went and took it back. I don't speak Russian and am not very good at explaining this stuff in Estonian...Challenging times are ahead of us. (Hope to get a kindergarten where he won't have to share...)
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