I'm sorry, but YOU...

I'm quite edgy lately, which is annoying me because it kinda disturbs our peaceful household which we used to have with Teodor, so I am annoyed because I'm edgy. I'm edgy because I am super-tired, feel sick, it's hot outside and I still have to run all the errands with a 16-months old. On the top of it I have a dog on a strike (he doesn't like his new haircut) meaning he's barking and crying at night, he is refusing to walk on our daily walks and generally he's a pain you know where.

Today Teodor was playing with the dishwasher drawer (you know those magical wheels, right?), I was not paying much attention what he was doing, so I closed it causing his fingers being squeezed in between. Of course he started crying and I wanted to "shout" at him "I'm sorry but you should be more careful", within a second I realized what I read about apologies and said "I'm sorry I squeezed your fingers.I didn't mean to" instead. The point is that the power of apology is saying that you are sorry, not blaming the other person it was their fault because if you start blaming the other person, it is not a proper apology. Saying sorry is about feeling sorry about what you had caused no matter whose "fault" it was. I could explain to him later he has to be very careful about his fingers and I promise him I would be more careful next time too. Well, I didn't go into such details because I didn't consider it necessary.